Brothers. They have your back.


I have four brothers. Two of them will listen. One of them asked me about my faith, a thought provoking and life changing question. And the last-but-not-least brother, along with his wife (one of those sisters I mentioned), sheltered me, fed me, and helped me heal my broken spirit.
I remember standing at my brother’s kitchen sink, looking out at the pine trees on the other side of the continent from my former desert home, thinking, “I know why abused wives don’t leave their husbands. It – is – just – so – damned – hard.” For many of us, status quo is security and safety, even when it isn’t. For many of us, we don’t even realize we are abused. I frankly thought I had a good marriage, and that if I just was different, if I did some things differently, then my husband would know what a good and loyal wife I was.
But my brother said, “Come here. Be with people who love you 100%, where there are six, soon to be seven people who think you are the greatest thing to walk through the front door.” And so I did. And now I know that that is how it should be. If you are in a situation where you don’t feel you are loved 100%, it is not for you. If you don’t feel like you are the greatest thing to walk through your own front door, find that place. It is not prideful or narcissistic to believe that. It is recognizing your self-worth. Don’t let someone else rob you of belief in your own value.
How are you recognizing your own gifts?


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