There is a commercial on TV where the man says, “Fiber makes me…sad.” It makes me sad, but it does not make me feel guilty, that my former spouse was a “no show” at his grandson’s wedding because, as he told one of the kids, he “couldn’t handle it.” It is really sad when a meaningful relationship ends. Some things are hard to handle.
Everything about your life changes when your marital status changes; your family, your friends, your home (even if you keep the mutual one), your perspective…it all changes. For me, the changes just keep resulting in more positive opportunities for happiness and growth. My spirituality is blooming. My family has become closer. My circle of friends is widening. I am more independent and self-sufficient. I am exercising my intellect through writing and art. I am taking care of myself, and not everyone else!
So often, we resist change because it is the unknown. There are no guarantees that what we change to is going to be better than what we have, and yet, it almost always is. Change is rejuvenating. Change is what lets us know that we can dance and sing in life, and not just float along. Change keeps us young. Change makes us a better version of ourselves, if we use it to the good.
Change is very hard, and it tests everything about one’s character, but change is what you make of it, and like eating more fiber, the results can be much healthier!